Lizzy’s Online Blog Journal: Obstacles of being a blogger

In today’s hustle and bustle advice of blogging session we have the obstacles of being a blogger. This covers all areas of media such as two main ones that I know off is Blogger Writer and YouTuber; the only two that I actually know about this is because my sister is a YouTuber and I’ve also seen how hard it is to blog everyday for the rest of the YouTuber community. As I struggle these days blogging just normally but yet I still find away of doing something and post it up. However I’m going to base this session on writing purposes; this will cover all other areas as well to help you get past them, the fact that I’m doing this right now is because it will help me go through my obstacles that I am in right now.


Obstacles that I’m facing all the time:

– Thinking that my writing and the work that I do put into it. Isn’t great because I believe in my thoughts of negative and how rubbish I am in writing. No confidence in myself to get something worth doing.

– Fear of being judged by critics that who are jealous of your talent because they can’t do it; for example: “your work is rubbish. I can do so much better than that”, yet they don’t have anything up to show how good they really are.

– Fear of not getting a good audience of people to keep on coming back; makes you feel like your trying to hard to impress people, or no one really likes you or your work and think someone tipped them off for not reading any of your work.

– People contact you saying you can get x amount of followers/subscribers if you use this cheat.

– People pretend to be who they are but they aren’t especially if they are businesses people that you may not of heard about.


How do we over come them?

To be able to over come these types of obstacles is by believing in yourself and don’t give a damn about what people think. You are doing it for yourself and yourself only.

– To kick people arses who are jealous of your success.

– Believe that your work is better than anyone else’s.

– Doing it all for yourself and no one else

– Believe your work is something that is your own unique pleasure and having fun doing it.

– Ignore your critics and listen to your positive critics the more positive critics can over turn your loser critics.

– Don’t worry about your audience as much as you should because they will come to you when they are ready; don’t go to them and bribe them by using a cheat app of getting x amount of followers/subscribers, because at the end of the day you still feel like you haven’t earned them on the way you like to.

– People who claiming that they are from a famous company or a company that you may not of heard off; just check them out, ask questions and have a look at their website but also get someone else’s second opinion about it all as well. You never know if they could be frauds or not


Being Successful:

The number of ways of being successful is being staying true to who you are; how you want to run your website, how you want to do things your way and you don’t have to follow the trend that everyone else is doing. Defeat all of the obstacles that stand in your way because they are there to be defeated not to stop you from doing what you love doing.

Don’t be a dick about how popular you are!

The fact that in this title I made it sound that like I’ve made the title say all the things that I wanted it to mean; to which it became all true, now I’ve got to make it like this blog post sound more interesting and prove the point that title has the same meaning and have that selling point for you guys.
Reasons why I have chosen this title is that it means so many things in the world of blogging and youtubing etc. To the point of people who think they are famous for being the most popular YouTuber or blogger is because everyone loves to watch them and read their everyday lives. Then you have the simple people who keep their heads on proud of what they have achieved and grateful for their audience and then patience.
Apologies that I’m probably ranting in this one but I’m just feeling angry and upset about something. I just thought why not take it out on a blog for a change. The fact that I find that people who create cheats for getting more subscribers or followers don’t actually deserve the whole thing because they haven’t earned the hard work or the patience of the craft that they have made; they just want to get paid, be noticed and be as popular as the next person. Please don’t do that because everyone knows those sort of people are fake and true bloggers and youtubers actually work their socks of to get where they are today; even if they weren’t planning on doing youtubing or blogging for the rest of their lives, they were just doing it for fun.
The fact that I work my socks off everyday even when I don’t even feel like blogging I try and make ago of it; when I look in my administration page, to see what else that I can do I see comments and yeah people give me the nicest comments ever. Also people follow my blog site because they actually enjoy the whole thing; I just don’t go click the follow button if you want to read more, click like if you liked this blog or comment below blah blah blah. You know what I mean it’s just that’s me thinking that’s pretty poor marketing to be honest but all I say is see you next time or just leave it and let you guys decide what you want to do. At the end of the day it’s your choice not mine. If you like it you like. If you don’t you don’t.
I’m one of those people who like small little victories that I know my work is good; even when I’m having a bad day about something or I’m having a relapse, it gives me that positivity of hope in life that I can do things. Also the main thing the confidence that I can do things; than brag or be a dick about it all by rubbing it into other people’s faces. If I did have a dick I pretty sure I wouldn’t rub it into people’s faces. Haha. Apologies can’t help it dry sense of humour strikes again; a lot of that has come out the past week or so, a bit weird but I wonder why no one takes me seriously unless they got on the wrong side of me and then they don’t know what’s hit them.
Just be you and that’s all that matters. If you likes give it a like, give me a comment if you want more like these, give us a follow. If not doesn’t matter your choice I just go and find a cheat somewhere….wait wait wait, I was kidding hahaha that made you walk straight into that one. How many of you walked straight into that one or you know I was having to you on? I bet you; you thought “dickhead. You just wrote a whole piece on how so many people have been dicks in this line of business”, haha just wanted to see how long you would notice.
Chow for now
X

25 Facts About Me

Friday Time Recap Time this opening is an one off special as I haven’t planned it; didn’t really think that I was going to use it for 8 o’clock time but I will today as I have nothing planned, and this was half way completed at the time. So enjoy.


About time to when I should do a Q&A thing really and to be fair I was pretty bored. I wanted to do another blog instead of feeling sorry for myself for being ill and etc haha. So here’s are my answers to the picture up above but will put the numbers next to the answers so that you can refer back to the questions.


A1) Elizabeth Ruth Arrow.

A2) Capricorn.

A3) Meg Ann and few others.

A4) Pretty rubbish for a Friday.

A5) not answering.

A6) not sure at the moment.

A7) 5ft4 1/2.

A8) I have so many I don’t know where to begin.

A9) Writing, my phone and probably my bed right now.

A10) when people annoy me to the point of I can’t get out of it, being hurt and feeling rubbish towards myself.

A11) friends who know me well, kids that I work with, knowing that my blogs are okay.

A12) not sure.

A13) Prince Harry always be my secret crush (oops said that out loud), Hugh Grant and many others.

A14) did have five earrings in both ears,

A15) not sure.

A16) not sure.

A17) happy endings.

A18) iPad (haha).

A19) not hundred percent.

A20) this morning.

A21) definitely not.

A22) I can speak and understand none verbal talk.

A23) A few friends.

A24) nope once I’ve watched the series it’s finished don’t go back to it.

A25) your turn to ask me questions for a next Q&A session

Beauty Products I use daily

I had this idea for the last few days now as nearly everything that I use everyday is running out; no money until next week to replace them but I can tell you which brands I use daily, when I have them on a average day. I’m not going to do it in order to what I put on my first; it’s just too technical, along with I use different brands at different times.


I use Garnier Skinactive Micellar Cleansing Water to take off any make up off that I may of missed when I use B. Micellar Cleansing Water.


I use B. Micellar Cleansing Water first before anything else. Just to make sure that my make up is off or there’s anymore left that I’ve missed. I also use B. Make Up brushes to apply the correct make up that I use.


I use Revlon make up of contouring and corrector. Two of the most expensive things that I buy but I don’t care to be honest I like the brand and it works for my skin.


I use out of the Collection range Sheer Loose Powder Ivory, unless they are out of stock I use something that’s closer to it. Compressed Powder Ivory unless they are out of stock then I go for something closer to it. I also use Medium Cool or Fair Concler and I also use black liquid eyeliner.


I use Barry M Ivory foundation and Primer. If they don’t have my foundation I try and get something near to it.


I use Maybelline New York Massacre the extreme look (red massacre one) can’t remember the actual name of it. Maybelline nude colours eye shadows and sometimes their contour colours but not that often.


I use Simple Cleansing lotion, make up wipes and make up remover if I ran out of the wipes or I haven’t got anymore Cleansing Water left.


That’s basically the only things that I use for my daily make up. I sometimes buy double of things so that it will keep me going for about four months or so to keep me going for a bit while longer

You know that feeling of I want…..

The Autumn Lifestyle of my world when I really want…..

It’s that time of year where it’s getting colder each day; the leaves are starting to turn to their autumn colours, loose their leaves and the mud starts to become horrible and muddy. That’s when I’ve started to get into a bath and into my pjs feeling. I generally don’t do that but these days I’ve actually wanted to do that because I’ve been up for almost 12 hours a day minus the weekend lay in is luxury for me to be honest with you.

The last couple of days I’ve just wanted to have a bath, get in my pjs, have my dinner and just chill in my room. So then if I do fall asleep then I don’t have to worry about having a bath or having to get dress in the freezing cold. The fact that I’m craving hot chocolate right now it’s ridiculous because I’m never craving it this badly; but heyho if anyone has great suggestions of wha flavour hot chocolates are out there do let me know, so I may have to invest in some because I liked the one that my cousin gave me but I never got round to getting anymore because I’m never have any money.

The other another feeling that I’ve been getting is me wanting nice cuddles with someone in bed because I’m forever cold and doesn’t help my hips hurt every so often. Not because of that guys come on what do you take me for. I wouldn’t be blogging now if I was. Rolling my eyes at you guys. Innocent children maybe reading these. I have joint problems okay especially when I have a trap nerve/lower back pain. Which effects it badly so odd occasions I do take something for it to help me get some sleep a night.

A bit of a short one tonight guys sorry. I’ve been struggling to write something the last couple of days. If there’s something that you want me to talk about please don’t hesitate and leave a comment below.

All the best

X

Yes I blog. Yes I do make some of my blogs heart felt but what you believe is what you believe…

This week for the new month and a new week is something that I would like everyone to understand.

For the record of this I would like to remind people what I do and why I do it. I also give people the opportunity of what they believe and what they don’t believe; you may think I’m faking it or lying about my blogs, that’s why I start putting subject headings like my online diary entries because at the end of the day it’s just a story weather it’s real or not. I know the truth otherwise I wouldn’t of published it in the first place. Let me break this down for you so you know how I work and how I do things if you want to become a blogger or a writer.


The burning question of why I blog? This is because I want to be a writer; blogging is another format for me to get myself of the ground, along with the whole base of acknowledging my writing is good and people enjoying my work but also respect me for what I write. Yes I use research and turn into a story or share my views on certain matters of life that means to me. Yes I may share some personal things on my blogs because I believe that people need to understand what people struggling but also to how people can relate to the same things. The fact that I don’t give a too whoots about people who think they are right or they are wrong because at the end of the day they believe what they believe and I believe what I believe at the end of the day. Not everyone is the same as each other otherwise we won’t be able to be controversial at all. The whole world wouldn’t go round if we could even try to make it to.


In life there’s always going to be critics out there; whether it’s Newspapers, media, press, friends, families or even fake friends or just wannabes. You either just have to believe in yourself of not listening to all of the critics who try to take you down because at the end of the day who is right and who is wrong? Your the one who’s going to be right as it’s you who knows what is happening in your life not them, you tell them something and they could just spiral it out of control and put you down no matter what.

Yes it’s horrible and eats you up. At the end of the day you ask yourself do I give up something that you love or continue to push through the pain barriers and stamp out all the negativity that’s coming towards you? Ask yourself those two questions. You don’t have to tell me that’s your choice to tell or not.


To be able to overcome them all is who do you believe your critics or yourself? Someone once told me that you should believe in yourself; take no nonsense of other people because all they want to do is bring you down because they think your better than them and think they are going to loose their power over you. You know something the amount of times I wanted to give up blogging because people come to me and say is it all true and etc because they are concerned or go to someone else and get them involved. That hurts the most; it goes to show how much you can trust people who believe the internet world more than the actual person, and everyone shares their feelings on the internet but for me as a writer and a blogger I use my emotions through the stories that I write because that’s how I know to sell my blogs and stories to people to get them to read it. I don’t actually express my feelings to anyone else when I’m with them unless it’s the most closet friends who actually seen me cry that’s when I talk about things in private.

I like to put this out there when I write blogs I do not have to continually say this is a story or this is a poem or this my actual blog post. I should have the right to be able to express my form of different types writing media in the way that I want to, not having to have people dictating me what I can and can’t do.

Sunday Confessions: Life of a mid 20 year old

New month and why not hit it off with a Sunday Confessions time shall we.

I wasn’t too sure how to do this Sunday’s Special or weather or not to write it for this week; but I thought when I looked up some ideas I saw the title of confession of a…., and then I thought as it’s a Sunday and normally I do a Sunday Special. Why not go back to my routes of growing up in a Christian family and touch base there for a bit.

I know that I have struggled a lot this passed week or so but I’m not going to go down that path of talking about it on here; I have something that I can turn to for that, so let’s not go there. However I will talk about my experience so far with my 20’s up until now; as I have less that 13 weeks until my 27th birthday, so I might as well talk about it now than later. By the way I’m fine and I’m doing this for myself no one else.

1. Left College

2. diagnosed with Polystic Overias Syndrome

3. landed two volunteering charity work

4. landed a retail job

5. landed a paid charity job

6. landed a new job in a special needs school school

7. left the paid charity job

8. got diagnosed with Depression and GAD

9. left the Special Needs School

10. I started a new job doing school runs

11. I started my blogging in 2015

12. I started my official blog website

13. Went and do some traveling for a bit with a friend.

14. Tried out dating websites (never again)

15. Had worst times with mental health

16. Friends that moved away for better life

17. Family problems

18. Family member getting married

19. Family two family members getting confirmed/christened

That’s pretty much about it I think so far in the space of 6 years in my 20’s lots of things happened I have missed a few and maybe more but I didn’t want to particularly mention it and put it out there. So as you can see there are pros and cons in my life that has happened within the years of my 20’s.

How to live with toxic people?

A new category of life that involves people through all walks of life.

In this world that we live in there is so many people that are so toxic; even if you managed to get away from it all, your very lucky to be able to do so. Not many of us can avoid that sort of thing or who can break the cycle but then drawn back into it one way or another. I’ve been in a similar situation that I wish I never did go down that road to begin with. Like the rest of the blogs that I have done this week but two different ones because for this one it’s completely different to the others that I’ve talked about.


You may think no one is toxic enough to ruin your life. Wrong! Throughout my life of my first 6 years of being in my 20’s I have come across a lot of toxic people. From being with them as in a relationship to being friends to ditching them completely and breaking free from it all. The fact you know you break away from them but when you do; you always find yourself either back talk to them or they come back talking to you. Either which isn’t good.


You remember that year of 2003 when Britney Spears brought out the song “Toxic” with the words of “with a taste of your lips, I’m on a ride. You’re toxic I’m slipping under, with a taste of a poison paradise, I’m addicted to you, don’t you know that you’re toxic, and I love what you do, don’t you know that you’re toxic”

Everyone has one way or another had that taste of people are poisonous they always come back for more, and mess your feelings up or you know the history. Unless it’s completely different story but it’s toxic for the both of you.


However taking control of the situation is the best key for everything. Knowing that you can be in charge of your destiny no matter what. For me I taken control on things where people who come in and out of my life. If they want to come in and out of my life that’s fine because they are busy thats cool with me. If they don’t want to stay put in my life they can stay away; at the end of the day I don’t want my emotions to be played with or get my hopes up at the end of the day.

Health & Wellbeing: First month of autumn over

Health & Wellbeing of mental health and everything else especially when it comes to first month of autumn.

Our first English autumn is now and well and truly over. The fact that I’m going to do the Truth, the bad and the ugly for this one because I found it a bit easier to talk about certain things that matter to me. If I found certain things difficult or easy or something along the lines of that. So here we go.


September has been quite difficult in some areas. The fact that I had started a new job I felt anxious and afraid until I managed to find my feet. Yeah might of put someone in there place a few times in a space of a month; I finally found my feet, putting my things I know into place and working well. Relationship hasn’t been that easy either this month lots of insecurities and everything but always seemed to work out for the best at the end of the day. Polystic Overias Syndrome hasn’t been so nice to me this week either especially with my hormones.


The bad thing is when my depression starts to kick in; I start to feel rotten, I don’t know what’s going on in my head or within myself. Everything seems to not go right. Unless I’m going down with something or my hormones start playing up then that’s another cattle of fish. That’s when the ugly side comes in when nobody wants to take the full brunt of it all. To be fair I don’t really blame them. Unless it’s Caspain then he just takes it on dead on and stamp it out of it as best he could.


The most ugly thing about mental health and Polystic Overias Syndrome is that at the worst times they both come at the same time. I don’t understand when I have this problem where my hormones start to kick in; I can tell you now that this is very rare for me to have it now days, but when it comes it kicks off my mental health and I just can’t cope with it. Especially with both at the same time and it’s really truly horrible all I wanted to do is stay in bed and just cry. That’s the hardest thing that could ever happen to me. Not easy to say the least.

More to the point now that we have just finished one month of autumn; about to begin the next month autumn; we all know how English weather can be so depressing, and a whole lot worse than people like me have to face it everyday. Heyho I just have to keep on fighting it everyday.

Online Diaries Entries: The Truth, The Bad, The Ugly Part 2

Online Diary Entries: Are they true or are they made up? You decide what the answer is.

The second part of my The Truth, The Bad and The Ugly. I wasn’t really going to do the second part to this story; but the fact that I was so upset, angry and missing Caspian. Lots of things happened yesterday (Tuesday 26th September 2017) I literally had a complete reality check of everything. I took it all out in the blog post that I put it up today.


The truth is it’s the first time that I’ve been apart from Caspian for a week; this is because we use to message, talk and etc everyday. I could handle the odd few days without him when he was busy and off on business trips. When it came to near death experience of myself which lost his late mother in 20 years ago I didn’t want him to be put into that position again with me. The fact I try not to talk about my relationship on here as much but when I find it hard to write a blog I don’t bother but when it comes to my feelings about things I just put pen to paper and write. Other than me forcing the pen to write something on a blank piece of paper that didn’t want to be written on if it wasn’t meant to be written on at the time. The fact that I just adapted Caspian’s positivity quote and his advice on things goes to show how much I love him and shows I listen to him more than anything in the world. He is my rock and without him I don’t know what I would do without him to be honest with you.


The bad thing is I let my insecurities get the better of me at the best of times. I also start to freak out and start pushing Caspian away even when he’s trying so hard to keep me away from my sheer demons of depression that I can get myself into. It is hard work to get me out of it but at the end of the day if I didn’t have him I think I would be worst off than I have already.


The ugly thing is that when I have someone that close; I know that I can’t have them for some odd reason, most of the time is all in my head and I’ve always told myself that. That’s why I think I have a lot hatred towards myself and push people away especially guys who I let in close they stay that way because they know I have those issues of do I actually know they want me or not. Since being with Caspian for 4 months he stayed put because he loves me even with my demons that I can’t seem to control without him. I know that if I have to control it on my own half the time because I can’t rely on him all the time.

However I can’t wait for him to come home at the weekend. I just want him home I just miss him so much. Don’t like the 5 hours difference between here and Canada. I suppose this is testing the relationship more than ever. Stupid connection in Canada haha. His words of his dislike of the country because he can’t talk to me as much as he would like to; like he was home here, also he just love me too much and misses me to much.